what doesn't kill you makes you stronger quote

    I too am an addictions therapist and I've certainly seen the effects of trauma on people at all stages of their lives. For me, at least. The peacemaker appears to be the perfect child who learns to expect everyone's favor and therefore a very cheerful personality, and the scapegoat lives with criticism, developing no self-confidence, and has a suspicious and rebellious personality. I asked the unit commander where he found those vicious attack dogs of his. While I believe that statistically the article refers to findings that may very well be accurate of the norm; I am not sure that the conclusions derived therefrom are accurate. Thanks for the commment, but if you read carefully, you'll find that what bedevils you here are your own logical contradictions. I didn't cite anything from Satoshi. Try fightin’ with your head for a change” ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird. I agree with the sentiment in your argument and I use it frequently with my clients, not to ruin their hope for the future, but to help them realize what they may stand to lose when they take unnecessary risks (I'm a substance abuse counselor). I know my being has been damaged by many traumas, starting in childhood and continuing now. clearly, a laceration leaves scar tissue, weaker than whole tissue. Children merely grow into adults who have absorbed and developed functioning skills for the societal/customary/routine behaviors of the world in which they are expected to function. Strength Stronger Us I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. Ours, after all, is a probabilistic, not deterministic science. Years ago, during my mandatory army service in Israel, I took part in anti-terrorist training that involved working with the K9 unit. The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly. It is naive to think critical thinking can be developed if one is raised in a "polyannish" fashion, like a good puppy. I made up the quote about "weaker" by myself not knowing about this article, What Makes you Reflect Trumps What Kills or Doesn't Kill You, Parental Competence Doesn't Predict Outcome. When trauma and hardship do leave a mark, it is usually a bruise under the skin, not a notch on the belt. I think we should pay attention more to these special cases and find out how we can (indeed) grow stronger after a bout of pain and suffering. I wouldn't be surprised if the next title of his post is "why Japanese are superior to white people.". I personally do not believe in the rampant dispensing of drugs, nor do I practice a "group therapy session". This article seems typical to me of so many in empirical psychology - which take every proposition, even an existentialist one like 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger', as if it were supposed to be understood as an empirical truth. We need to have and give love, genuine love, interested love, active love and caring for our children as that is what will carry them through life. Tarkabab: the answer to your question is 'no.' I can assure you, if someone in that intimate of a position turns out to be a bully who treats you like an inferior and lies to you, it can be VERY damaging. I suffer greatly from painful physical symptoms such as nerve neuropathies and other stress related issues, and I seriously doubt that they have been or can be good for me. For our minds, however, the leap is short between seeing the strong emerge from a calamity and concluding that they are strong because of the calamity. I personally prefer to change my flawed beliefs before they cause irreversible damage. I cannot say I have become stronger (I am about to be 65 years old and I am already a very strong individual), but I am certainly more understanding of the complexity of sisters' relationships and rivalries because I have taken the time to reflect on them. Cheers to you mate have a nice one. Because parenting behaviors co-occur with children's developing personalities, many parents assume that their behaviors actually shape their children's personalities. Tender love and care toughen you up, because they nurture and strengthen your capacity to learn and adapt—including learning how to fight, and adapting to later hardship. Dogs that have been well cared for, loved, and protected all their lives—those are the best anti-terrorist dog candidates. Parental behavior doesn't shape children's personalities, you say and for a mother of four (one of them adopted) this is not so hard to believe. In full, it is: Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Satoshi is the guy responsible for asinine posts like "why liberals are more intelligent than conservatives" and "why atheists are more intelligent..." etc. And yet most people will make all kinds of excuses to not lift heavy. because i'm troubled). “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” … We are all survivors of some form of pain and suffering. For some reason, when we are happy or content we don't reflect or analyze ourselves and/or our actions, but when we undergo a hardship, we tend to ponder about what went wrong. http://www.katharinenewman.com/Research/COA/pro-23-3-226.pdf. I have often repeated Nietzsche's famous quotation to myself in my head when I've been going through turbulent times. What it shows is that early trauma predicts later behavioral and emotional difficulties. This research is giving us clues about the biology underlying that vulnerability." He seems to be ignoring tons of research into the effects of maternal depression, childhood trauma, etc. I am not speaking here of clear cases of brain damage or dysfunction that require medical intervention or pharmaceutical management, but of affective states that people experience as uncomfortable or problematic - anxiety, or 'stress', would be an example. Love is taking an interest in the well being of others and giving a part of yourself to that person. Out of life’s school of war — What does not kill me makes me stronger. See: 50 Great Myths of Popular Psychology: Shattering Widespread Misconceptions about Human Behavior And I agree that we should look deeply into cases of 'growing stronger through calamity' to find out what individual characteristics and environmental conditions (i suspect they interact) facilitate such experiences. The Soldiers I see that are deeply and chronically affected have many other issues including childhood neglect and abuse. It is not that you don't have an influence on their lives, well-being, development, happiness, attachment, feeling of security, self-confidence etc., you just can't change their personalities and make let's say an extravert from an introvert. ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird. I have found this article very interesting because I work with Warriors in Transition who suffer from PTSD. Group studies are unfortunately just measure a group and return a group average, not an individual diagnosis. A new theory aims to make sense of it all. A lot of emotional frailty leads back to parental oversheltering and lack of punishment or over-punishment at home (see "Nation of Wimps" on this site). My concern is that the DSM is continually expanding the list of personality and behavioural 'disorders' and professionals are all-too-keen to relate what Szasz has called 'problems in living' to incidents of childhood 'trauma'. Muscle cramp--no trauma. This tendency to infer causality from co-occurrence is not limited to humans; caged pigeons, receiving food at random intervals not related to their behavior, will nevertheless repeat any movement they happened to be doing before food appeared. Thank you, I think I'm just about to understand :) This would presumably be an advantage over others who do not demonstrate such findings, and lead this individual to better confront future traumatic experiences with an arsenal of tools for dealing with it. Is that conclusion not completely in contradiction to his initial point? Panic attacks, for instance, can lead to a diagnosis of acute anxiety disorder; the person then becomes a 'patient' and treatment suggestions will include psychotherapy and/or benzodiazepines. Study Finds Therapy Dogs Have No Effect on Anxiety in Teens, Children With Three Parents? — Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker. Friedrich Nietzsche. It's just wrong and serves only to ease the minds of people who don't feel comfortable around suffering. You can easily do that with StrongLifts 5×5. Psychotherapy requires the 'patient' to chase down the child that is long gone and the longer the treatment goes on, the more you realise that there is nothing beyond the horizon of the ever-receding Self. The first paragraph of the book says, "Life is difficult... once we truly understand and accept that, it is no longer difficult." if coddling were the wellspring of strength, the generation presently in ownership of the industrialized world would be the physically, emotionally, and intellectually fittest group of persons ever to have lived. Strength does not come from winning. Also, those who've been through trauma are indeed survivors, and they are better off than those who did not survive the trauma. Of course street dogs are unpredictable, they have been in fights with no backup and have learned to look out for themselves. Am I right? Though these aspects of life can make you stronger they first make you weak, such as developing personality traits that are viewed as weak attributes. At the outset, he states that the tendency to connect two events in time as cause and effect is a fallacy. Do I see the slings and arrows of fate merely as factors that degrade me or magically make me stronger? Assuming that the clinical evidence of both those individuals who are "weaker" as a result of calamity and those who are "stronger" is the same, what then is the foundation of this article's conclusion? Muscle tear--trauma, etc. Adult children of alcoholics do not display a distinct profile of symptoms. but not all challenges, even severe ones, are necessarily "traumas". Severe parental abuse and neglect can indeed disturb personality development fundamentally, particularly for certain children who are already vulnerable temperamentally (genetically). Everyone everywhere should read this and know that is is the indisputable truth. Chasm definition is - a deep cleft in the surface of a planet (such as the earth) : gorge. My only gripe about your post is that you cited something from Satoshi Kanazawa. What shall I choose? Are Journal Editors Responsible for Poor Quality COVID-19 Research? It doesn’t tell you that you are sick, or that the thing that you ended up with was going to hurt you or anything like that.” Mullis’ comments are unsurprising for anyone who has been paying attention to the behaviour of the authorities during the COVID-19 catastrophe. It's not a bad article. He uses his field less as a science, and more as twisting around facts to support personal beliefs. Parents DO shape their kids lives. Antidepressant Drugs May Act in a Previously Unknown Way, How Narcissists See Daily Interactions With Their Partners, 16 Ways to Test How Much Your Partner Cares About You, When Narcissists and Enablers Say You're Too Sensitive, Psychology Today © 2021 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Traumatic Brain Injuries Affect More than the Brain, How Social Isolation and Loneliness Impact Brain Function. But, no, parents are the most intimate relationships kids have, and sometimes the only close relationships kids have. There are no facts, only interpretations. By Scott O. Lilienfeld, Steven Jay Lynn, John Ruscio, Barry L. Beyerstein, Also here: In terms of behavioral and emotional difficulties, when we combine affect regulation and behavior, are we not left with a person's personality? Then, because I was hurt, I took the time to analyze what went wrong and deal with this painful situation. The pigeons become, in a sense, superstitious. It starts with recognizing our own patterns and understanding why we came to be this way. A tear in the muscle can be identified via sonography and treated with anti-inflammatory agents and rest - a tear in the psyche can neither be objectively determined nor, ultimately, 'corrected'. For example, in one recent study, healthy adults viewed fearful and calm faces while undergoing functional magnetic resonance imaging to measure activity in the amygdale, the part of the brain that forms and stores emotional memories. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. Intact things work better. It is then that we learn and become stronger. And being a survivor is being strong even if it appears weak. Street dogs are useless for this—or any other—work because they are unpredictable and not trainable. See also: Recovering Resilience: 7 Methods For Becoming Mentally Stronger (forbes.com) John Dewey What does not kill him, makes him stronger. But parents don't determine your personality. If, in fact, trauma does affect us in long-lasting ways, as he argues, then how is it that parenting behavior has no impact whatsoever? One client who'd lost an arm in Viet Nam for example, helped establish an organization in his city that had war veteran amputees assisting children who'd also suffered an amputation to the obvious betterment of both. But human beings are not bacteria, and good training is not a traumatic event. I agree with the premise of this article. I believe that trauma and suffering left untreated or undealt with certainly weakens, but I believe the opportunity also exists for some to use their pain as a way to grow at least spiritually stronger. For instance, if upon viewing traumatic images, a post-traumatic person's 'emotional' center was triggered, as well as specific regions of executive function, it would seem that the contrary conclusion this article would be true - that the 'traumatic' experience merely merged emotive registers with problem solving activity. “A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. When we describe someone's personality, we usually do it in terms of the way they behave and their "heart" as it were, which we can only infer from observing their behavior. As if one's relation to it had nothing to do with how one is deploying one's will. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death. Do you mean there is no research that indicates the family is a system? It does affect many things other than personality. Our parents didn't want us to be envious of each other and so we wore the same clothes and when she received a present, I received an identical one and vice versa. The only sensible way to live is without rules. Don't be fooled by its passive, event-follows-event way of framing human life! To invoke another, more whimsical, quote from Goldman's The Princess Bride, 'Life is pain - anyone who says differently is selling something.' Hence, the ideal of the 'Ubermensch' - the one who could embrace his suffering and incorporate it into an aesthetic re-formation of the self in order to say a resounding 'yes' to life. Once we have acquired a certain belief, we tend to see, remember, and report mostly instances and events that support it. But what evidence do you have that the current generation isn't on the whole the fittest group ever? So don't be depressed! In fact, they are worse at it, interpreting many benign situations and expressions as dangerous and hostile. But they are important in the way oxygen is important to us. Bacteria that are not killed entirely by an antibiotic will mutate and become resistant to it. They have the same parents and still each one is different, with a different set of values and behavior. Half of the participants were within 1.5 miles of the World Trade Center on 9/11 and the other half lived at least 200 miles away. It reminds me of the ways that positivists misconstrue religion - first of all by reducing it to the kind of discourse that they themselves prefer to engage in. Friedrich Nietzsche. This is called confirmation bias. You can read Judith Harris's The Nurture Assumption to see a nice summary of the issue. As I myself have endured life's trials and tribulations that have infact made me a stronger person in many aspects, but on the other hand, one who has come to the realization of understanding those weaknesses brought on by life's trials and tributlations and overcoming them is what makes you stronger, not the hardship itself. The Joker in the movie The Dark Knight (2008) uses this phrase in a slightly altered way "Whatever doesn't kill you, simply makes you stranger!" I appreciate your point. Most people, he said, believe that wild street dogs make the best anti-terrorist dogs, having survived the, well, dog-eat-dog world of the mean streets. But psychological research has shown that a history of chaos and trauma actually hinders our ability to thrive. A History of Multi-Parentage. Professionals working within the medical, psychological and sociological spheres would do well to critically reassess what they are peddling every time they invoke the concept of 'trauma', as well as identify precisely what it is they wish to achieve with us - the 6.9 billion human 'survivors' of pain and suffering that we might universally stigmatise as being 'disordered' by trauma. Dwight D. Eisenhower. Success After failure and failure after success the person equipped with bearing the shocks and keep on walking wins the day on the other hand the person who never walks through a shock maybe unable to stand up again as depicted aptly as satire in movies the Armani suited executive jumping of the upteenth floor on the coming of bad news, Or in reality the News about individuals breaking down we hear it everyday. How Do Dreams Change Throughout a Night of Sleep? That which does not kill us makes us stronger. “You can’t defeat the darkness by keeping it caged inside of you.” – Seth Adam Smith “Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” – Steve Maraboli “I avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward.” – Charlotte Brontë It is quoted or alluded to by many other works, with minor variants in wording: Disambiguation page providing links to topics that could be referred to by the same search term, If It Don't Kill You, It Just Makes You Stronger, What Doesn't Kill You, Eventually Kills You, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=What_does_not_kill_me_makes_me_stronger&oldid=1003828779, Disambiguation pages with short descriptions, Short description is different from Wikidata, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License, "O,ti De Skotonei" ("Ό,τι δε σε σκοτώνει"), 1991 song by, This page was last edited on 30 January 2021, at 22:03. Just a gloomy one. It's what makes us, to quote Nietzsche again, 'Human, all too human'. This is a commonly overlooked concept in psychology. It is not possible to compare emotional states to physical ones. The drugs are problematic enough but leading the mind down the labyrinthine paths of distorted childhood memories and negative life experiences can become an unremitting nightmare. You should know better. I am a pure-blooded Polish nobleman, without a single drop of bad blood, certainly not German blood. [18] Christopher Hitchens ' book Mortality has an extended reflection on the quote, written as he was dying. As do we. People LOVE to say that quote about being made stronger by things that don't kill you. Then you conclude that "tender love and care toughen you up". I have been arrested more than ten times and involuntarily hospitalized three times for legal behavior. But it is not the calamity that made them so. Toughening up is not shaping personality, it's allowing personality to remain intact. This variable, it seems, would shed more light on the question of adversity/strength vs adversity/weakness. This is a blog, not a scientific paper. I’m different, f*ck your opinion. One finds this again and again in psychology. Everything in your article seems scientific until you use anecdotal evidence based on one dog trainer in Israel. I totally agree with you. This build can kill almost anyone who doesn’t have mist form, and it’s even stronger in No-cp. Though I stongly agree to the above mentioned and not saying that there are not exceptions to the rule, as there is in all cases. And the sad things is, if I hadn't been through such tough times, I wouldn't be so depressed about this article. Coddling and Care are not the same nor are Psychological hardship and laceration. I believe that whatever doesn’t kill you simply makes you stronger! VC: good points all. It seems to me, that it is far more relevant how this sensitization works in conjunction with other brain activity (such as problem solving, executive function, or fight-flight response) that may be more indicative of a person's ability to remain resilient in the face of difficulty (an indicator of over all strength and adaptation) rather than a generalized susceptibility to trauma. It's nuts, and even though I know it's nuts, it has still been so damaging that I cry imagining doing certain things again. My Soldiers who have PTSD issues who were loved when growing up have a soft place to land when their hearts are scarred by their experiences, do well and move on. I would agree that at times "what doesn't kill us makes us weaker" - and this may, in fact, be the general trend of most humans. (Siblings who grow up with the same parents don't resemble each other at all in personality; adoption studies consistently show that one's basic personality is as a rule predicted better by one's biological rather than adoptive parents, etc.) Thus, we have developed many ways to try to ease it—one of which is bestowing upon it transformative powers (another is by believing in an afterlife, of which Freud disapproved; still another is cocaine, of which he was, for a time, a fan). The person you love is able to trust that you won't hurt or abandon them (think children and spouses) and that you have a genuine interest in them. What does not kill me makes me stronger (German Was mich nicht umbringt macht mich stärker) is part of aphorism number 8 from the "Maxims and Arrows" section of Friedrich Nietzsche's Twilight of the Idols (1888). Suffering as an adult often comes from childhood, from parents or siblings but may be from many other things. And also the attitude "let's teach music so students are better at reading/math" is a little repugnant to me, because it doesn't value music for its own sake. Once you venture out of that range, the rules change. De Nederlandse tv-ster voegde er ook nog een zwart hartje aan toe. Well, technically, it wasn't you who said that about parenting, it was the article that you referenced with your link. Within a fairly broad range of basic parental competence, there does not seem to be a strong link between early experience and adult personality. I don't see that the last generation was "loved" when they were given "stuff" and left to their own devices with video games, generous allowances, and allowed to alienate themselves and others with techonology all the while seeing the glamorization of really bad,self-hating, egocentric behavior among celebrities. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” -Fawn Weaver. Liz: In the big pcture, the facts are always our friends. Personally it was my mental and physical disability (from an occurrence at nine months of age) that drove me to become what I am today - a Counselor and Healer of people. Isn't "toughening up" actually shaping personality? I agree. But I think there are special cases where mental resilience in the face of trauma and suffering actually DOES make people come out stronger in the end. The hard knock life guy will not be ready to trust or work with others as well as someone who grew up with a nurtured style. Most of the links made by people between their early experience with their parents and their current lives are no more than useful fiction. Counseling is on an individual basis, person to person, and stays that way. Individual differences exist in this as in practically every realm of human experience. Act as if what you do makes a difference. You're just allowing for healthy roses and sunflowers to flourish. I agree with those who say your thesis depends on the individual, but I think it also depends on reflection. What doesn't kill us in fact makes us weaker. But the whole point of maxims like Nietzsche's - leaving aside all the empirical facts about how we acquire resilience within our experience - is that they're about promoting a certain attitude and a certain decision. Zelf schreef ze er nog ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ bij - wat je niet doodt, maakt je sterker. In my own experience, the diagnosis and treatment of a 'disorder' can exacerbate and prolong the initial problem. I agree that sometimes correlated events are linked causally but technically speaking, we need to be able to demonstrate that experimentally before we can start to speak in those terms. But the truth is just the opposite. Enduring hardships throughout life indirectly make you a stronger person. I've been conducting an experiment socially involving female toplessness in New York City where is has been legal for decades and it has been incredibly stressful in every way imaginable... leading me to coin the term Post-Topless Stress Disorder. Yes adaptation does depend on the individual. misanthropope, your post seems to read : laceration = Psychological hardship,Care = coddling. Scientific support for my claim, however, is abundant in the developmental literature. Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Otterbein College and a practicing clinical psychologist in Columbus, Ohio. They don't suffer from PTSD nearly as much as their compatriots who entered their adulthood with a history of neglect and/or abuse. Like, when the parents are alcoholics and/or fight a lot, one child becomes the peacemaker so as not to cause further discord, and one child becomes a scapegoat for the family so they do not have to address how the parents' situation is affecting them all. For instance one might develope cynical attitudes, stubborness, resentment, the inability to trust others......ect. The school of hard knocks does little more than knock you down, hard. We slept in the same bedroom, went to the same school and when we fought we were both punished in the same way. We have the ability to decide how we feel about something. Where each child takes on a certain role to cope with a dysfunctional situation? It makes them strong. The scapegoated child is always labeled as "acting out", when he is reacting to rather than complying with something that he knows is wrong or unhealthy. Veterans that I have talked with agree with me that many of the things I have experienced can be similar to those experienced by soldiers. Pathologizing the pain of life is indeed misguided, and so is romanticizing such pain. My op. I've just read the article with much interest, as my own opinion is such that trauma is trauma and maybe some people are more resilient, but the truth is that trauma causes physical stresses which can no more strengthen a person than a blown out tire is stronger after blowing. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. I also think that people from south central tend to be stronger than suburbanites. but rather to suggest that mental and emotional pain are simply aspects of living. Jangother: The dog anecdote was used to illustrate the point in an interesting, creative way, not to prove the point. I've been through several "adventures" (largely due to bad decisions I've made)--with a certain pride that I endured them and didn't fall apart. One more reason to love the stuffin out of your kids, and any kids you come in contact with. As a visual artist of skill who has struggled for years for personal reasons, some of which are traumatic, I must say that the only thing more difficult than continuing to find the motivation to do anything but lay down and die *which is how I have felt for much of my life) is trying to find a way to cope with the all pervasive notion that my suffering should somehow lead to the production of excellent art and when...it inevitably does not how to deal with the ensuing feelings that there is some thing horribly wrong with me because it has not. It was a good article yet missing the personal touch. What proves your point is siblings. 94. The reverse may likely be said of a person that merges their emotive response with lower-order/instinctual functions of the brain. See, the problem with most of the people who disagree with this article is that they see/think (erroneously) that coddling is what the doctor is talking about, one more way to validate your own issues at the expense of reality. In our own time, the greatest danger is that we insist on pathologising every negative emotional experience and behavioural adaptation in the futile pursuit of an idealised norm of conduct and being. Or do I decide to use them as spurs to my own chosen self-becoming? 50. Good children often create good parents. I think this might, like most psychological phenomena, depend on the individual. For most of us, however, psychological trauma is not viewed as a potential source of inspiration but, rather, as the dead weight of life-long baggage. When two things happen together, we assume they are meaningfully linked, and then we rush to bind them in a quite unholy cause-and-effect matrimony. 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